Love making has to be one of the most satisfying and ecstatic feelings of the world. But, at times, you need a guide as things do not go as planned and some awkward and weird things may happen. In the year of Fifty Shades of Grey fueled BDSM and “daddy kinks” some believe that the art of gentle love making may be dying. Well, I’m here to tell you otherwise. A myriad of demure couples – especially those doing it for the first time – still prefer to take it slow. So we are here to guide you and help you make your partner happy.
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If you, too, are exhausted from the S&M sessions or are simply unsure of how to go about it, scroll down for a comprehensive guide to love making that you should know!
1.Start with foreplay
Foreplay is essential for any kind of sex but with vanilla, it’s the main course. This is because ‘love making’, unlike rough sex, gives you ample time to dip and tease. So, explore all those crevices, take your time.
No need to bite, grab or pull. There’s no need for violent hickeys or purple bruises. Gentle, feathery touches to create just the right amount of anticipation and tension are the backbone of perfect love making.
3.Use what God gave you
We mean your hands, tongue, lips and whatever else you can think of. Keep it natural. There’s no room for toys in traditional love making.
4.Make eye contact
Now I don’t mean you have to stare at each other the entire time, but a couple intense looks won’t hurt.
5.Pepper your partner with compliments
Whisper it in their ear or spell it out on their skin, up to you.
This is a general rule for almost every kind of sex but if someone is going down on you, you better return the favor.
7.LOTS of little kisses
Just little kisses everywhere.
While BDSM may be the place for dominatrix-es and submissives, here, you and your partner are equal. So listen, and pay attention to their needs.
Let the tempo build as you go, but start off slow and sensual.
10.Stick with the classic positions
This is not the kind of sex where you end up with unwanted cramps from stretching your leg too back too far. Stick with what’s comfortable, tried and tested.
This step is totally optional, but come on, who doesn’t like a good cuddle?
12.Do what feels best for you
Ultimately, sex is about pleasure. So, don’t worry about following some rules of a listicle. As long as it’s consensual, go with the flow and do what feels best for you and your partner.