Erotophobia is an overrated or illogical fear of love, that is related to sex in any way, which completely prevents a person from having the ability to have sex, or just weakens a person’s ability to enjoy sexual relations, including having any intimate conversations, facts that it’s a completely negative view towards sex.
Erotophobia is devastating if not treated, as it has a variety of fears attached with it like fear of sexual images, nudity, homophobia, fear of sex education, sexual discourse, fear of genitalia, love, intimacy, and fear of any sexual activities or behaviors. These fear facts will lead to avoiding romantic and intimate contacts.
We bring you some basic facts about erotophobia or the fear of sex.
Some particular phobias connected with Erotophobia are;
Having the fear of sexual intercourse, which is also called coitophobia. Generally, people get into a romantic relationship, partake in all the kissing and cuddling, but are afraid to take it to the next level which is intercourse.
Fear of Intimacy
These people are not at all afraid of the sexual intimacy and intercourse, but they are more afraid of the emotional attachment which usually follows thereafter, which brings a lot of expectations, conditions, hurt and pain.
This is a very complicated phobia which is fear of sexual perversion of themselves or others. People are comfortable with sexual relationships as long as it’s on moral grounds that they believe in, whereas others are afraid that intimacy itself is perverted.
Fear of being touched quite often or too much romantically or sexually results in affecting the relationship. They even avoid any form of physical contacts by their near and dear ones and many are afraid of long and continuous touching.
Usually, people are afraid of nudity whether it’s theirs or watching other’s naked. A very complex feeling of awkwardness, shyness, and incompetence even with their own nakedness, when alone.
Fear of Vulnerability
This is very much similar to fear of intimacy as they know the facts about themselves and feel these facts may not be accepted and could be rejected by others. Hence, they avoid intimacy and this affects sexual and non-sexual relationships.
Someone who is very health conscious and is afraid to kiss because of bad breath or may find it unhygienic due to some particular germ related issues.
What causes Erotophobia?
Usually, those who have been raped or sexually abused in their past or in their childhood, but at the same time many suffer this erotophobia due to some shocking or disturbing incident occurred in their life.
Those who have experienced some serious ordeal or strain in their past are contracted with anxiety disorders and phobias. A touch-related erotophobia triggers from physical abuse and intimacy or vulnerability-related fears spring from psychological or emotional abuse, these are facts.
People’s view points and belief change over time, this is where the balancing part becomes difficult with the past and the present views, concepts, and perspectives for which society is partly to be blamed. Those who remain in this confusion and don’t adapt change are likely to develop a phobia.
Many who worry of their inefficiency to perform and please their partner sexually is because of their immaturity with sex or being young at age and lacking experience, suffer from this phobia.
Some worry that sex may hurt, while others who are not confident enough that they could perform are actually a psychological condition which has a medical ground and is not seen as phobias. But there are many whose fears are a little exaggerated with the facts of the situation. If your fears are unfit to the current risks, chances you’re struck with a phobia.
Treatment of Erotophobia:
Professional treatment is required as it is a very complex issue. Facts are that people prefer seeking licensed health professionals or sex therapists in this matter, as erotophobia responds well to treatment, but complex erotophobia takes a lot of time and effort to clear up.
What will work is your patience and honesty with your therapist, that will help in removing your fears and gradually allow you to enjoy your sexual emotions correctly and positively.