A sex addict is a person with a progressive intimacy disorder characterized by compulsive sexual thoughts and acts. It negatively impacts the addict and the family members as the addictive behavior progresses.
If it’s just regular sex, it’s great. Sex these days is very easy. One of the many ways to stay healthy is regular sex. If you’re too lazy to hit the gym but want to burn a few calories too, well, then bang bang!
But, sex addiction is not normal, one of the major reason for the addiction is an abusive childhood, be it physical, emotional or sexual. Another reason is sudden exposure to sexual content. A child who lives a life of complete unawareness, made to believe that babies fall off from the skies may turn out to be an addict when he finds out the truth.
Intimacy in a relationship is very important. But if your man is just into sex all the time and there is no place for any other emotion, it’s time to get cautious. How do you find out if you man is a sex addict?
Sex addicts, if you pay attention, behave differently. Here are a few signs.
Compulsive masturbation: He indulges so much in self-stimulation that he even ends up hurting himself. It is similar to people who are “extremely” OCD about cleaning. The clean themselves so hard that they end up bleeding.
Multiple affairs/ partners, one night stands: Your man may be indulging in casual sex with random people. His outbox is filled with sexts and gallery filled with nudes. He knows he is cheating on you and is guilty about it but has no control over his sexual desires. He is also at a high risk of sexually transmitted diseases. These sex addiction signs are easy to track.
Indulging in prostitution: He knows that visiting various prostitutes is an open invitation to AIDS but is still ready to take the risk. This is again a sign of addiction you need to look out for. Sex addicts lack self-control big time.
Persistent use of pornography: Porn is again very common these days, but one should know where it becomes an addiction and should stop right there.
Voyeurism ( watching others having sex): Secretly indulging in voyeurism is a threat to other people’s privacy. They may even tape other people indulging in sex so that they can watch it over and over again. And you don’t know when they may also make it viral.
Sex addicts not only put their own lives at risk but are also a threat to others. If you see any signs of sex addiction in your man, get him help immediately.
Your man will go through a string of mood swings during this phase. He is angry one moment and suddenly emotional. Sex is no longer an act of pleasure for him. It is how he puts his other emotions on display. He is angry, has sex, he is stressed, has sex, he is frustrated, has sex. Sex has overpowered all his other emotions and he alone cannot help himself.
Sex addiction attracts frustration, because of which he may start hurting himself. It gives rise to self-destruction.
If he is not getting enough sex, he may start molesting people. Sex addiction has started shaking his moral boundaries now!
Clearly, he can only think about sex now. This takes a toll on his career, relationships, work which just adds to the frustration.
The scariest part is “rape”. He may end up raping innocent people and now he is a criminal. When a sex addict turns out to be a rapist, he is so brutal that the poor victim has to face the consequences.
Just excessive sex is not sex addiction, there is so much more to it. Good news is it can be cured by therapy, counseling. A sex addict will rarely approach anybody for help, because of we, in spite of living in a progressive world take great pleasure in assassinating somebody’s character. The problem is we ourselves are so unaware of it! Sex addiction is a brain disorder but with a little bit of help can be cured.
It is very important for parents to talk about sex with their children. It also strengthens the bond, the child trusts you and knows that you will always have answers for their curiosity. And when a child talks about the abuse he is facing, remember he chose to bare himself in front of you than anybody else. That takes a lot of courage, he knows that you will fight for him and turn him down will only push him to a darker place mentally!
So, next time be careful when you see these signs.